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Repairing Her Loss: A Little Girl Finds Solace in Baseball

My ex-wife is mad at me.

I don't mind this time.

It started with the day after Christmas when my Mom told me about a movie called "The Perfect Game." (How this was released in theaters 2010 without me ever hearing of it is beyond me.) Luckily, my sister left her DVD at my brother's house. My brother happens to live around the block from Mom, and his wife was more than happy to drop the DVD off to me. Nice how things work out.

So I watched the movie. And I loved it. Or, I guess, lofed it.

Based on a true story, the film takes place in 1957, centering on a group of nine kids from Monterrey, Mexico, with dreams of playing a game they had only heard about via radio broadcasts. They adopt a coach, César Faz, who had returned to Monterrey after having his own dreams of playing in the majors squashed by the St. Louis Cardinals. (In real life, his prior claim to sandlot fame was coaching a Mexican amateur team.)

Star-divide

As noted here, Faz leads his kids to an improbable run to the Little League World Series:

The Monterrey Industrials, as they were called, came to the United States with three-day visas, crossing the border on foot, expecting to play, and lose, a single game in McAllen, Texas. They won. Then they won the next game, and the one after that, and so on, sweeping through regional and state tournaments.

Their visas expired, and they would have been deported if not for the intervention of the U.S. ambassador to Mexico. They were skinny and undersized; they lacked money for food; they became exhausted by a schedule that didn’t always permit their accustomed siestas.

They arrived in Williamsport, PA, to play for a title that no non-American team had ever won. Even then, they didn’t understand what the championship really was. Their La Mesa, CA, opponents loomed an average of five inches above them and outweighed them by an average of almost 30 pounds.

I suggest watching the movie if you want to know the rest (that is, if you haven’t figured the ending out by now.)

***

So where does my ex-wife fit in to this heartwarming tale of rags-to-riches? Instead of leaving the DVD at my Mom’s house, I decided to borrow it, trusting that my sister would not mind whatsoever (I was correct.)

My ex-wife Rocio, left a widow four years ago after her second husband was involved in a fatal work accident, has an 8-year old daughter named Maya. I just knew that Maya, though not raised a baseball fan, would love this movie. (I was correct.)

What I didn’t realize was how much.

Maya watched "The Perfect Game" the next night, too. And the next. And the next. Weekend came, and my sister asked about her movie. I told her I hadn’t been able to retrieve it yet. She laughed. "If she likes it so much, tell her she can have it." Maya was slightly thrilled by the news.

A couple of weeks later, my phone rang. It was Maya. "I got a new baseball glove. Will you play catch with me?" I was at her house in seconds. (It helps that I live two blocks away.) Maya, who already demonstrates a few skills on the soccer field, impressed me with her arm and glove.

This past Sunday, she called me up.

"Are you working?"

"No", I lied. "What’s up?"

"I have a bat now. Will you pitch to me?"

"Depends. Will you watch Moneyball with me?"

"What is that?"

"A baseball movie. You’ll love it."

"OK!"

(She didn’t love it.)

But Maya loved to hit. At first, she was chopping at everything. "You’re throwing it too low!" Yeah, it’s my fault. But once I got her to plant her feet correctly, keep her eye on the ball, and swing level, she was spraying the ball to all fields. Or to all areas of the backyard anyway.

"All she cares about is baseball", says Rocio. "Even at soccer practice she finds things to throw. And she takes that glove everywhere."

My ex-wife only pretends to be upset with me for bringing that "damn movie" to her house and introducing a whole new world to her precious Maya. Whatever makes her happy, she says.

***

"I see great things in baseball. It's our game, the American game. It will repair our losses and be a blessing to us."

-Susan Sarandon, quoting Walt Whitman, in Bull Durham

Bored with Moneyball, Maya proceeded to the kitchen Sunday night to pitch to herself. Whack. Whack. Whack. Somehow through all the whacking, nothing was broken.

Baseball may never heal what is broken in Maya’s life, namely her heart. But if it can slowly mend it one pitch or one swing at a time, I’d say that’s a good start.

Perfect, even.

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Hugs to Maya

And I needed a movie recommendation, thanks – I just added it to my Netflix queue.

I’m glad Maya has found something to help take her mind off of a painful loss. I trust you to dissuade her from becoming a Giants fan.

by coffee roaster on Jan 17, 2012 6:56 PM PST reply actions  

Thank you.

Well, her father was a fan of the SF teams, but I took her to her first game – in Oakland, of course.

I'm here to talk about the past.

by 67MARQUEZ on Jan 17, 2012 6:59 PM PST up reply actions   1 recs

I love this...

…and I love your warmth in writing about your extended family.

I haven’t seen the movie either! I think I kept getting it confused with For the Love of the Game.

"Oh who am I kidding? The A's and Giants could stage a pillow fight, and I'd still care who wins." -67Marquez

by baseballgirl on Jan 17, 2012 7:07 PM PST reply actions  

I did the same thing!

my sister in law posted about it on FB and I thought, “way to call it the wrong name.” oops.

I'm here to talk about the past.

by 67MARQUEZ on Jan 17, 2012 7:31 PM PST via Android app up reply actions  

Haha, I REALLY thought they were the same movie!

"Oh who am I kidding? The A's and Giants could stage a pillow fight, and I'd still care who wins." -67Marquez

by baseballgirl on Jan 17, 2012 8:34 PM PST up reply actions  

Oh, I love For Love of the Game!!!!

I haven’t seen Perfect Game — I’ll have to watch this.

Oh, and hi 67M! Missed you!!! ♥

There's no crying in baseball!

by gigglingone on Jan 17, 2012 7:33 PM PST up reply actions  

Great story...

Stories like this always remind me of Terence Mann’s monologue from Field of Dreams:

The one constant through all the years Ray, has been baseball. America has rolled by like an army of steamrollers. It’s been erased like a blackboard, rebuilt and erased again. But baseball has marked the time. This field, this game, is a part of our past, Ray. It reminds us of all that once was good, and that could be again.

It is amazing how baseball just seems to take root in a kid’s mind and never let it go…

by RickeySteals on Jan 17, 2012 7:58 PM PST reply actions  

That's one of my favorite quotes...and movies.

I miss baseball. There, I said it. Even the craptastic A’s!

"Oh who am I kidding? The A's and Giants could stage a pillow fight, and I'd still care who wins." -67Marquez

by baseballgirl on Jan 17, 2012 8:46 PM PST up reply actions  

although

it is hard to call what the A’s have been playing the past few years “baseball”

anyone caught starting, promoting or participating in "the wave" should receive a lifetime ban from baseball

by CrackBaby on Jan 17, 2012 9:16 PM PST up reply actions  

Or as Jai Miller would say,

“I miss baseball. Often.”

I like Cindi. A. She never pretends to know more than she does. B. She has unbridled enthusiasm for her "Hotties," and isn't afraid to show it. -IM4Oakgal

by Nico on Jan 17, 2012 9:32 PM PST up reply actions   2 recs

Great story, Don

Just beautiful. My Maya is bored by baseball still. She currently loves figure skating more than anything else and has another competition coming up in February. She placed third in the last one. She loves soccer too but she also wants to try basketball because she’s obsessed with dribbling a ball around our house.

I’m thinking we’re going to need to try softball with her soon.

by Tyler Bleszinski on Jan 17, 2012 8:16 PM PST reply actions  

Repairing Hair Loss...

…is how I first read it. I need to slow down.

Anyway, great story.

A hot dog at the ballgame beats roast beef at the Ritz.
~Humphrey Bogart

by UncleLeo on Jan 17, 2012 9:04 PM PST reply actions  

I actually intially read the headline as,

A Little Girl Finds Shoelace In Baseball.

Great story, and much better than the shoelace one would have been.

I like Cindi. A. She never pretends to know more than she does. B. She has unbridled enthusiasm for her "Hotties," and isn't afraid to show it. -IM4Oakgal

by Nico on Jan 17, 2012 9:05 PM PST up reply actions  

and this

Is why I love AN ( and my friend Don )

A Kouzmanoff for the rest of us!

by OptimistPrime on Jan 17, 2012 9:36 PM PST via mobile reply actions  

Great point.

I like Cindi. A. She never pretends to know more than she does. B. She has unbridled enthusiasm for her "Hotties," and isn't afraid to show it. -IM4Oakgal

by Nico on Jan 17, 2012 9:39 PM PST up reply actions  

and this

Is why I love AN ( and my friend Don )

A Kouzmanoff for the rest of us!

by OptimistPrime on Jan 17, 2012 9:36 PM PST via mobile reply actions  

also

Why i hate mobile commenting

A Kouzmanoff for the rest of us!

by OptimistPrime on Jan 17, 2012 9:37 PM PST via mobile up reply actions  

Terrible point.

I like Cindi. A. She never pretends to know more than she does. B. She has unbridled enthusiasm for her "Hotties," and isn't afraid to show it. -IM4Oakgal

by Nico on Jan 17, 2012 9:39 PM PST up reply actions  

No it wasn't. OP was just replying to both Dons.

"Trying not to rec a "***k the Giants" post is like trying not to look at boobs."-anonymous
"i guess i just like beer"-stm

by Tutu-late on Jan 18, 2012 7:12 AM PST up reply actions  

Great story, Don

Sometimes it’s easy to forget sports are a distraction as they become an obsession.

by DanHennessey31 on Jan 17, 2012 10:17 PM PST reply actions  

Great story!

tko bira, masturbira -- Croatian proverb quoted by elcroata

by WaddellCanseco on Jan 17, 2012 11:33 PM PST reply actions  

Great story

Not even ashamed to admit it made me slightly teary. Yeah..that’s how mushy I am, and how much I love baseball. Thank you for sharing.

by Digitalmonster on Jan 18, 2012 2:52 AM PST reply actions  

Very endearing story.

Baseball has always meant a lot to me. It keeps me close to my dad( that and auto racing). I’m so happy that this is helping Maya during this time. Thanks for sharing, Don. ♥

"Trying not to rec a "***k the Giants" post is like trying not to look at boobs."-anonymous
"i guess i just like beer"-stm

by Tutu-late on Jan 18, 2012 7:15 AM PST reply actions  

Nice story

I’m not able to wrap my head around this. How/why are you so involved in your ex-wife’s daughter’s wife? That’s great, of course, just curious how that happens.

I'm not impressed by your performance......

by closetasfan on Jan 18, 2012 8:12 AM PST reply actions  

I guess the easy answer

is that Maya is also my son’s younger sister. So she sees me a lot. I think she naturally became attached after her dad died.

I'm here to talk about the past.

by 67MARQUEZ on Jan 18, 2012 2:23 PM PST via Android app up reply actions   1 recs

Thanks everyone.

I'm here to talk about the past.

by 67MARQUEZ on Jan 18, 2012 2:19 PM PST via Android app reply actions  

Fantastic and big-hearted writing, as always.

There is an evening coming in/Across the fields, one never seen before,/That lights no lamps. -- Philip Larkin, from "Going"

by Ray of Lite on Jan 18, 2012 10:07 PM PST reply actions  

nice

the next Jennie Finch

You have to include smiley faces - Poppy
;- ) :- ) :-O : -> : -] : -}

by micdog2001 on Jan 19, 2012 3:09 AM PST reply actions  

Thanks Don...now you have two people mad at you!

I picked up the movie at Target today and watched it with my nine year old daughter; the one child out of four that is as big of a fan as I am, the one child that gladly gets up at 430 am on a saturday morning to drive from Eureka to watch a ballgame in Oakland.

I pretty much teared up through the whole movie, even though I KNEW what was going to happen. Thanks a lot for that!

You are a good man – moreso than words can say. As someone who lost their father at a young age (two), I can tell you that the “uncles” I had in my life that came and took me fishing and the like had a profound effect on my life, one that I have no doubt they had no inkling of.

by plrraz on Jan 21, 2012 6:35 PM PST reply actions   1 recs

Loved this post.

Thank you for sharing, pirraz.

I'm here to talk about the past.

by 67MARQUEZ on Jan 22, 2012 1:20 PM PST up reply actions  

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